Note: this is a not locked post, so it will be sufficiently vague as to irritate Kenneth Cavness (not really).
Note: this is a not locked post, so it will be sufficiently vague as to irritate Kenneth Cavness (not really). Please to keep comments similar.
Anyway, due to various and sundry experiences, I am rapidly coming to the conclusion that anyone who has to live or work with someone with mental/emotional illness on a regular basis who determines that this is simply something they cannot do because there is too much collateral damage - they get neither judgment nor criticism from me.
To be clear, I am not talking about people who have an illness or condition and are actively participating in some kind of therapy or treatment, or maintaining something of the sort. I mean the people who, in spite of support and help and access are so ill or so lacking in insight that they not only refuse but actively fight any support, care, or treatment.
I'm sure there are people whose situation is so challenging that even with active pursuit of therapy or treatment things may still be untenable, and I am very sorry for everyone in that situation. Even then, though, it may be that someone needs to make the decision to walk away for their own health. I feel compassion for all these people.
I feel compassion even for the ill people who won't or can't (because ill) participate in treatment, but recognizing suffering still does not make me think that requires everyone around that person to suffer. In fact, nope. I am definitely at the point of if you need to walk away to survive, not only will I not judge you, I will applaud your self-insight and judgment. Mind, I don't mean anyone deliberately causing harm, I just mean people walking away to survive.
Sometimes, that's just the way it has to be so not everyone is destroyed.
And on that cheery note, I think I will go watch that video of the pinball song. 12345, 678910, 1112.
Anyway, due to various and sundry experiences, I am rapidly coming to the conclusion that anyone who has to live or work with someone with mental/emotional illness on a regular basis who determines that this is simply something they cannot do because there is too much collateral damage - they get neither judgment nor criticism from me.
To be clear, I am not talking about people who have an illness or condition and are actively participating in some kind of therapy or treatment, or maintaining something of the sort. I mean the people who, in spite of support and help and access are so ill or so lacking in insight that they not only refuse but actively fight any support, care, or treatment.
I'm sure there are people whose situation is so challenging that even with active pursuit of therapy or treatment things may still be untenable, and I am very sorry for everyone in that situation. Even then, though, it may be that someone needs to make the decision to walk away for their own health. I feel compassion for all these people.
I feel compassion even for the ill people who won't or can't (because ill) participate in treatment, but recognizing suffering still does not make me think that requires everyone around that person to suffer. In fact, nope. I am definitely at the point of if you need to walk away to survive, not only will I not judge you, I will applaud your self-insight and judgment. Mind, I don't mean anyone deliberately causing harm, I just mean people walking away to survive.
Sometimes, that's just the way it has to be so not everyone is destroyed.
And on that cheery note, I think I will go watch that video of the pinball song. 12345, 678910, 1112.
(You need to walk away, but I know exactly why you can't. All my support 🥰)
ReplyDeleteYeah. I feel those feels.
ReplyDeleteUrgh.
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