I don't even know what to do with my mother.

I don't even know what to do with my mother. I really don't. It is beyond my comprehension that someone could be this impossible. She is determined to present herself as the long suffering martyr to anyone who is still buying that, or doesn't have enough info to know otherwise, when what she is really doing is trying to Grand Moff Tarkin everything (the more you tighten your grip, etc).

Not to mention she has brilliant solutions to every problem, both as defined by her. She's not stupid, but she has demonstrated more and more often that she is an unbelievably easy mark for even a minimally skilled grift and is 100% anti-intellectual if it means she can choose to interpret anything anyone else says as somehow challenging or critical of her.

She literally raised her voice at me to make sure I knew that she knew everything about anything to do with the actual concern that happened. Except that was all she could do - keep saying I know things, I know all about it! while being completely unable to tell me what she was talking about. Hence my concern that she actually doesn't know. But she has the solution! Which, btw, I didn't challenge or tell her not to do. I just said I wanted to confirm we were on the same page because in fact she was having a different conversation than I was. Call me crazy, but I thought we might want to be having the same conversation. Obs, I was wrong.