for documentation - just handing me a bag of clothes through the car window - that was taking me for granted.
for documentation - just handing me a bag of clothes through the car window - that was taking me for granted.
That's when you should have asked first and said thank you after.
Getting pissed off and directing anger and its energy at me when I said what am I supposed to do with this because I couldn't just put it on the seat next to me and it was problematic for me to turn around and get it into the back seat
because I was belted in and pulled forward because I wasn't supposed to have to be getting out of the car, just stopping to bring you what you had asked for. After just being handed it and obviously assumed to just take it and do what you wanted.
That was mean, nasty, presumptive and unacceptable. You just assumed you could bring this out to the car, hand it to me and walk away, because that's what you needed and you wanted and I was just conveniently there to make your life easier.
Frankly, it's manipulative and abusive, too. But at the very least, it's using and taking advantage of and screw you for taking me for granted, screw you for immediately using anger as a threat tactic, and if you had done that to anyone with half an ounce of self-respect who didn't need your relationship, what I should have done is dropped the bag back out of the car window and driven away in response to your anger.
I notice it never occurred to you to say hey, would it be easier if I put that in the back seat for you? Or would you like me to put that in the car? Or if you unlock the doors, I could put it in the car if that's easier for you. Nope. Couldn't have happened. Because in your mind you had a scenario called I am dumping this bag on someone else so it's their problem because that's what I want and I'm the only existence. Any deviation from your predetermined fantasy and you are now angry at all the people and things who've failed to meet your expectations, because if you expect it, that's how reality is supposed to rearrange itself.
Screw you.
That's when you should have asked first and said thank you after.
Getting pissed off and directing anger and its energy at me when I said what am I supposed to do with this because I couldn't just put it on the seat next to me and it was problematic for me to turn around and get it into the back seat
because I was belted in and pulled forward because I wasn't supposed to have to be getting out of the car, just stopping to bring you what you had asked for. After just being handed it and obviously assumed to just take it and do what you wanted.
That was mean, nasty, presumptive and unacceptable. You just assumed you could bring this out to the car, hand it to me and walk away, because that's what you needed and you wanted and I was just conveniently there to make your life easier.
Frankly, it's manipulative and abusive, too. But at the very least, it's using and taking advantage of and screw you for taking me for granted, screw you for immediately using anger as a threat tactic, and if you had done that to anyone with half an ounce of self-respect who didn't need your relationship, what I should have done is dropped the bag back out of the car window and driven away in response to your anger.
I notice it never occurred to you to say hey, would it be easier if I put that in the back seat for you? Or would you like me to put that in the car? Or if you unlock the doors, I could put it in the car if that's easier for you. Nope. Couldn't have happened. Because in your mind you had a scenario called I am dumping this bag on someone else so it's their problem because that's what I want and I'm the only existence. Any deviation from your predetermined fantasy and you are now angry at all the people and things who've failed to meet your expectations, because if you expect it, that's how reality is supposed to rearrange itself.
Screw you.
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