Absolutely certain without confirmation that my mother is inserting herself into my uncle's situation.

Absolutely certain without confirmation that my mother is inserting herself into my uncle's situation. In fact, strongly suspect she is trying to have him brought back to this area. I give up. Her stress from all of this tells me that she has to know what is wrong with this, whatever her good motivations might be. And she keeps projecting it onto everyone else. Pretty much, at this point, if she has an irrational anger reaction that's out of proportion, it's an excellent bet that it times out to something to do with my uncle.

I wish she'd stop projecting it onto the rest of us. I walked out the other morning. I couldn't deal with it. I had something I needed to do anyway, so I just went and did it, so it wasn't a waste of time. Plus, it's not like I really have a whole lot of places to go. Nobody said anything when I came back. Her big rapprochement was to ask me for help with something innocuous on her computer later in the day. I'm really tired.