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Oh, man. The mom is really not gonna let go of this morning. Holy wow. She is off her rocker. She is also now in charge of managing my dad's meds (because I ain't playin' that). Which she already almost screwed up. See, I'm too detail oriented. Sometimes when things are stressful you just have to let some things go. Of course, my way would probably be an appropriate way to do things if it were a business, but it's family so that makes it different. (I mean, yes, it does, but uh, not that different.)
And it's still all about her. She's not stupid! She knows things! Notwithstanding that we're back to the first time my dad was in hospice 4 years ago when things were actually completely different medically but I'm wrong to consider this different and tell her not to use what she was told four years ago to make decisions now.
Hours, HOURS were spent in the hospital and the doctors' offices explaining how this is different than last time. In general and in dizzying detail. She claimed she understood. Every time the doctors, or the nurses, or I explained it to her. She obviously either never did and never will, or she is refusing to because it doesn't fit whatever she needs it to be. I mean she could be doing it subconsciously, but she's not stupid, in fact, and when facts suit her she is suddenly precisely on the ball. So color me skeptic.
She's super pissed at me. I am, in addition to everything else, mentoring my niece who is here right now. Surprise (actually, I am kinda a little 'cuz I have a really low opinion of myself, actually), my niece has gotten results already out of the one week of working with me and this appears to be continuing this week.
Mom is jealous because although the reasons my niece is here are: a) spend time with dying grandfather, and b) get mentored by me, it's still not ok that my mother is not the center of my niece's attention. Like, if you want to take her to lunch or something, do it. However, you cannot show her how to take care of her car, and you really don't know anything about career and graduate school mentoring.
You do know how to dress appropriately for interviews, but you'd have been telling her what to wear, not letting her pick her own stuff with input as requested. Also, you'd have taken her to places for 40+ year olds, not 20 somethings. P.S. My niece has excellent taste and judgment when allowed to.
So basically everything is a turf war for my mother. She has demanded that I tell her what my niece's schedule and plans are. I told her to ask my niece. She responded that my niece said she had things to do with me. So what's the problem? I need to know when people are going to be in the house or coming or going! But you do know those things to the extent people know them themselves. You just don't have details of everything they are doing, where they are doing it, and a minute by minute timetable of their activities. Why would you need that, hm, mom?
Nuts, with a z.
Oh, man. The mom is really not gonna let go of this morning. Holy wow. She is off her rocker. She is also now in charge of managing my dad's meds (because I ain't playin' that). Which she already almost screwed up. See, I'm too detail oriented. Sometimes when things are stressful you just have to let some things go. Of course, my way would probably be an appropriate way to do things if it were a business, but it's family so that makes it different. (I mean, yes, it does, but uh, not that different.)
And it's still all about her. She's not stupid! She knows things! Notwithstanding that we're back to the first time my dad was in hospice 4 years ago when things were actually completely different medically but I'm wrong to consider this different and tell her not to use what she was told four years ago to make decisions now.
Hours, HOURS were spent in the hospital and the doctors' offices explaining how this is different than last time. In general and in dizzying detail. She claimed she understood. Every time the doctors, or the nurses, or I explained it to her. She obviously either never did and never will, or she is refusing to because it doesn't fit whatever she needs it to be. I mean she could be doing it subconsciously, but she's not stupid, in fact, and when facts suit her she is suddenly precisely on the ball. So color me skeptic.
She's super pissed at me. I am, in addition to everything else, mentoring my niece who is here right now. Surprise (actually, I am kinda a little 'cuz I have a really low opinion of myself, actually), my niece has gotten results already out of the one week of working with me and this appears to be continuing this week.
Mom is jealous because although the reasons my niece is here are: a) spend time with dying grandfather, and b) get mentored by me, it's still not ok that my mother is not the center of my niece's attention. Like, if you want to take her to lunch or something, do it. However, you cannot show her how to take care of her car, and you really don't know anything about career and graduate school mentoring.
You do know how to dress appropriately for interviews, but you'd have been telling her what to wear, not letting her pick her own stuff with input as requested. Also, you'd have taken her to places for 40+ year olds, not 20 somethings. P.S. My niece has excellent taste and judgment when allowed to.
So basically everything is a turf war for my mother. She has demanded that I tell her what my niece's schedule and plans are. I told her to ask my niece. She responded that my niece said she had things to do with me. So what's the problem? I need to know when people are going to be in the house or coming or going! But you do know those things to the extent people know them themselves. You just don't have details of everything they are doing, where they are doing it, and a minute by minute timetable of their activities. Why would you need that, hm, mom?
Nuts, with a z.
Sounds absolutely awful to deal with, even with a nice niece.
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