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Only update is that my brother is probably not coming this weekend, now, because of the hurricane. Regrets, but his codependency with my mom make the prospect of his staying here a bridge to far for my presently fragile psyche.
Not that he shouldn't get to come see his dad, but it is also not at all ok for my brother to be here with my brother's issues if we cannot deal with some of the PTSD the medical system managed to trigger in my dad (thanks, medical system). It's hard enough dealing with my mom over this and that was with my sister here, who has had to go back to her job and her life in another state. I cannot have to take care of my dad and manage my mother and my brother.
Otherwise too overwhelmed and too tired to torture you with the fun times to be had by all.
To be clear, I am hugely relieved my brother will not be here.
Only update is that my brother is probably not coming this weekend, now, because of the hurricane. Regrets, but his codependency with my mom make the prospect of his staying here a bridge to far for my presently fragile psyche.
Not that he shouldn't get to come see his dad, but it is also not at all ok for my brother to be here with my brother's issues if we cannot deal with some of the PTSD the medical system managed to trigger in my dad (thanks, medical system). It's hard enough dealing with my mom over this and that was with my sister here, who has had to go back to her job and her life in another state. I cannot have to take care of my dad and manage my mother and my brother.
Otherwise too overwhelmed and too tired to torture you with the fun times to be had by all.
To be clear, I am hugely relieved my brother will not be here.
He wants to help, but he would be freaked out by the PTSD (b/c his issues), and if he stays here it is currently inevitable that he would be present for at least one episode.
ReplyDeleteI got a good suggestion, though, from one of the family support people. She suggested finding the kind of manly man things he feels good about doing and giving him stuff to do. So he could mow the lawn or fix a cabinet hinge or something. Basically, keep him busy in a way that is kind of useful to us but distracting to him.
I mean, he will be here at some point and he has every right to be. I'm just fried and can't cope with mansplaining and other forms of not helpfulness from him. For example, if he starts "asking" me if medical marijuana would be helpful and telling me why one more time, I'm going to have to find something to punch.