Because someone does good things does not mean they don't do bad ones.
Because someone does good things does not mean they don't do bad ones. Not to mention that these aren't cartoon villains, all evil, all the time. They're human beings with varied moods and behaviors, controlled under some circumstances, uncontrolled under others. They can be brilliant, supportive, and mentoring to one person while being an abusive bastard to someone else. I know the cultural trope is for guys to talk about women and their crazy moods and behavior (hormones!), but you might want to look in the mirror a bit on that one. Not to mention that abusers are often the nicest guy in the room to everyone else except their chosen victim.
This is a behavior that does not happen in a culture that truly says it is wrong, that it is unacceptable. But we have all sorts of excuses and winks and real man tropes that undermine any and all other facades of disapproval. At the end of the day, it's really ok, you see, because it's how it ought to be. Is she a goer? Nudge nudge, wink wink? One of many reasons I physically have a negative reaction every time someone uses the phrase "team player".
Interesting. The culture where you are given only the option of sex or forced to use sex or have sex forced upon you because entitlement has nothing to do with this. Because, really, if these women had any talent at all, made any effort, did any work, they would be rewarded just like one of the guys. All the real world facts bear that out. (Seriously?)
It never occurs to this writer that maybe you should find out if someone is ok with being hugged? Just because you think it's ok does not mean everyone else is obligated to think so, too. You are not entitled to hug someone. Interesting, again, that the opposite of empowered is "users and losers". I'm pretty sure this writer is very confused about females. They seem to think all women are is sexual objects who use men to compensate for their gender-based lack of ability. The implication throughout clearly being that men are presumed to be capable and women are presumed to be using them to cover up their incapacity.
If you aren't hearing men's stories, you aren't listening. These are all men's stories. Men who feel entitled to pigeonhole women as objects, to designate women as only existing to fulfill their sexual needs and wants, to be dominated so they can feel powerful when they are insecure. Men who may feel that this is how society has told them to act, that this is how they prove they are men. Every single one of these stories is about a man.
You may want us to think there are all sorts of terrible stories about men who had their penis grabbed without their consent, who were plied with alcohol and then subjected to unwanted fellatio at a "private business meeting", who were denied raises, promotions, and even fired because they wouldn't "put out" or "play nice" or be "a team player". But that's bull and you know it.
The stories you probably really want to tell are all about how nice a guy you are and how women are always dressing and behaving to provoke you and then refusing to go on a date or put out when they were the tease, etc. How instead of doing their work they flashed their breasts at you to get you to do the work for them, and so on. My only constructive response to that is get some mental health therapy asap.
Men get ahead by "hard work" because they are allowed to do so. Rarely does someone demand a man provide sexual gratification if they want a job or a promotion, although if you're listening to the #metoo stories, it happens. As far as men having sex as a tool (I'm not even going to discuss the whole idea of sex as a "tool", it's so off), what does the writer think they are doing? They are using it as a tool or weapon to dominate and subjugate and marginalize and control other people, generally women.
You do not want women to start acting the way you clearly think men are entitled to act. Women don't play the have a fight in the afternoon, have a beer in the evening game. I'm sorry you, too, have been damaged by this culture and believe women are nothing but sex toys without agency. All your comment does is prove exactly what you think you are disproving. Clearly, you need to grow up, a lot.
I worked at CBS. Mr. Moonves hired more women in positions of importance and as department heads than any other chief executive I knew. Let's be honest. Women in the entertainment industry have used their sex to get ahead. They also need to have some talent behind their use of their sexuality. If that doesn't happen then the best way to explain their failure is to blame the man. I have seen women throw themselves at these men. The, 'Oh he hugged me and my life is over,' attitude doesn't empower women it makes them apparent for what they are - users and losers . I have never once in all of these discussions read of anyone telling men's stories. How they get ahead by hard work. They don't have sex as a tool. These women are pathetic. I think the best term to use now for them is to - man up!
This is a behavior that does not happen in a culture that truly says it is wrong, that it is unacceptable. But we have all sorts of excuses and winks and real man tropes that undermine any and all other facades of disapproval. At the end of the day, it's really ok, you see, because it's how it ought to be. Is she a goer? Nudge nudge, wink wink? One of many reasons I physically have a negative reaction every time someone uses the phrase "team player".
Interesting. The culture where you are given only the option of sex or forced to use sex or have sex forced upon you because entitlement has nothing to do with this. Because, really, if these women had any talent at all, made any effort, did any work, they would be rewarded just like one of the guys. All the real world facts bear that out. (Seriously?)
It never occurs to this writer that maybe you should find out if someone is ok with being hugged? Just because you think it's ok does not mean everyone else is obligated to think so, too. You are not entitled to hug someone. Interesting, again, that the opposite of empowered is "users and losers". I'm pretty sure this writer is very confused about females. They seem to think all women are is sexual objects who use men to compensate for their gender-based lack of ability. The implication throughout clearly being that men are presumed to be capable and women are presumed to be using them to cover up their incapacity.
If you aren't hearing men's stories, you aren't listening. These are all men's stories. Men who feel entitled to pigeonhole women as objects, to designate women as only existing to fulfill their sexual needs and wants, to be dominated so they can feel powerful when they are insecure. Men who may feel that this is how society has told them to act, that this is how they prove they are men. Every single one of these stories is about a man.
You may want us to think there are all sorts of terrible stories about men who had their penis grabbed without their consent, who were plied with alcohol and then subjected to unwanted fellatio at a "private business meeting", who were denied raises, promotions, and even fired because they wouldn't "put out" or "play nice" or be "a team player". But that's bull and you know it.
The stories you probably really want to tell are all about how nice a guy you are and how women are always dressing and behaving to provoke you and then refusing to go on a date or put out when they were the tease, etc. How instead of doing their work they flashed their breasts at you to get you to do the work for them, and so on. My only constructive response to that is get some mental health therapy asap.
Men get ahead by "hard work" because they are allowed to do so. Rarely does someone demand a man provide sexual gratification if they want a job or a promotion, although if you're listening to the #metoo stories, it happens. As far as men having sex as a tool (I'm not even going to discuss the whole idea of sex as a "tool", it's so off), what does the writer think they are doing? They are using it as a tool or weapon to dominate and subjugate and marginalize and control other people, generally women.
You do not want women to start acting the way you clearly think men are entitled to act. Women don't play the have a fight in the afternoon, have a beer in the evening game. I'm sorry you, too, have been damaged by this culture and believe women are nothing but sex toys without agency. All your comment does is prove exactly what you think you are disproving. Clearly, you need to grow up, a lot.
I worked at CBS. Mr. Moonves hired more women in positions of importance and as department heads than any other chief executive I knew. Let's be honest. Women in the entertainment industry have used their sex to get ahead. They also need to have some talent behind their use of their sexuality. If that doesn't happen then the best way to explain their failure is to blame the man. I have seen women throw themselves at these men. The, 'Oh he hugged me and my life is over,' attitude doesn't empower women it makes them apparent for what they are - users and losers . I have never once in all of these discussions read of anyone telling men's stories. How they get ahead by hard work. They don't have sex as a tool. These women are pathetic. I think the best term to use now for them is to - man up!
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