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Oh, ok. Today I am "disgusting" because my mother's communications skills suck. You know what? I'm not perfect, everyone can improve their skills at lots of things. However, I've won fucking competitive, professional awards for my communication skills. So screw you and your abusive crap. For once, I have objective evidence on who's likely to be the one with the actual problem. Go me.
Furthermore, this is not about winning. It's not about you thinking everyone is calling you stupid, or about you being paranoid and thinking everyone is gaslighting you when they are not, either. But since your reaction is always as if someone has, indeed, called you stupid or gas-lit you, and that reaction is that you must win, allow me to explain.
If you want something, or want something done, and that isn't happening, the way to get it to happen is to focus on what you want to happen. If you approach it from the perspective of proving you were 'right', all you want is to browbeat and dominate everyone else, because what you truly want is to be 'right' and have everyone acknowledge it. (Look at me! Look at how right I am!)
Can't just have misunderstandings, or need to clarify wants and intentions, or, heaven forfend, just actually freaking state clearly what the heck you want (and not change your mind or keep altering the deal, as it were). Nope. You just need to be right. If at all possible while tearing someone else down in the process, just to be extra 'right'.
What this means is that you do not, in fact, care all that much about whatever the supposed substantive "want" is. What you care about is being 'right', and dominant, and 'winning'. So much 'winning'.
What major life changing event was this about, you may ask? Marigolds. Specifically, that in years past I had planted some marigolds in a few places and because her lilies have been utterly decimated by the lily beetles, which will continue to destroy any lily that appears for the next two months, she now really, really wants me to plant some marigolds because there's no color in the garden or around the house where the lilies are being wiped out.
But, you know, a simple statement along the lines of hey, could you plant some marigolds, it looks really bad without the lilies, or something, would be just too lacking in abusive potential. Because, after all, it's more important to treat me like garbage than to take responsibility for wanting something so awful as a a few marigolds planted for you.
So, yeah. I'm disgusting because I can't communicate. Mm-hm. Ok, sure. Why not?
Oh, ok. Today I am "disgusting" because my mother's communications skills suck. You know what? I'm not perfect, everyone can improve their skills at lots of things. However, I've won fucking competitive, professional awards for my communication skills. So screw you and your abusive crap. For once, I have objective evidence on who's likely to be the one with the actual problem. Go me.
Furthermore, this is not about winning. It's not about you thinking everyone is calling you stupid, or about you being paranoid and thinking everyone is gaslighting you when they are not, either. But since your reaction is always as if someone has, indeed, called you stupid or gas-lit you, and that reaction is that you must win, allow me to explain.
If you want something, or want something done, and that isn't happening, the way to get it to happen is to focus on what you want to happen. If you approach it from the perspective of proving you were 'right', all you want is to browbeat and dominate everyone else, because what you truly want is to be 'right' and have everyone acknowledge it. (Look at me! Look at how right I am!)
Can't just have misunderstandings, or need to clarify wants and intentions, or, heaven forfend, just actually freaking state clearly what the heck you want (and not change your mind or keep altering the deal, as it were). Nope. You just need to be right. If at all possible while tearing someone else down in the process, just to be extra 'right'.
What this means is that you do not, in fact, care all that much about whatever the supposed substantive "want" is. What you care about is being 'right', and dominant, and 'winning'. So much 'winning'.
What major life changing event was this about, you may ask? Marigolds. Specifically, that in years past I had planted some marigolds in a few places and because her lilies have been utterly decimated by the lily beetles, which will continue to destroy any lily that appears for the next two months, she now really, really wants me to plant some marigolds because there's no color in the garden or around the house where the lilies are being wiped out.
But, you know, a simple statement along the lines of hey, could you plant some marigolds, it looks really bad without the lilies, or something, would be just too lacking in abusive potential. Because, after all, it's more important to treat me like garbage than to take responsibility for wanting something so awful as a a few marigolds planted for you.
So, yeah. I'm disgusting because I can't communicate. Mm-hm. Ok, sure. Why not?
You (and your father) are saints for not just drop kicking her ass out of the house.
ReplyDeleteWell, she already informed us she has dibs on that. -_-
ReplyDelete🙄 (at your mother)
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