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Fortunately, I missed being present for a post-lunch conversation my mother and father had that reportedly began normally, but then Trump came up and somehow my mother managed to make that about my sister and her first, very abusive, ex-husband, with whom no one has had any contact for about 14 years, so why would she bring that up? Also, if she'd like never to see her other daughter ever again, she should definitely mention that man's name to my sister.
Something was brought up about borderline personality disorder (he was definitely narcissist, that was a formal assessment, but BPD has never come up before that I know of). Then she segued into something about my sister calling her names, which apparently had to do with my sister appropriately calling her out for abusive behavior, like, I don't even know how long ago that was. That incident involved all of us, and mom was definitely being a butt. Which my mother escalated even further after that because omg how dare she call her abusive, no the behavior was abusive, that's calling me abusive, blah blah blah etc. in person, over email. I don't even remember how long that went on.
Anyway, apparently my dad's choices were have an unwinnable argument with a crazy person (as per usual), or indicate his disinterest in continuing the conversation. Now, in a normal situation you could just say something. As we have consistently reproduced the result that that does not work with my mother, he turned on the radio and literally shut himself off, she got huffy about him apparently not wanting to talk to her anymore (see, it works!) and huffed off.
She was still huffing hours later when I had to talk to her. She's still irritated. Everybody else is awful except her, and she will apparently go down to the absolute lowest levels to make herself feel better about herself while abusing someone else. I have no idea what made shitting on my sister and bad things that have happened in her life anything at all related to Trump, nor am I sure why that was something that made my mom feel all smug and smart and superior. I'm just kind of appalled at where she's willing to go and the damage she's willing to do and just keep blaming everybody else.
Speaking of things that might fall on that personality disorder spectrum.
* sigh *
Fortunately, I missed being present for a post-lunch conversation my mother and father had that reportedly began normally, but then Trump came up and somehow my mother managed to make that about my sister and her first, very abusive, ex-husband, with whom no one has had any contact for about 14 years, so why would she bring that up? Also, if she'd like never to see her other daughter ever again, she should definitely mention that man's name to my sister.
Something was brought up about borderline personality disorder (he was definitely narcissist, that was a formal assessment, but BPD has never come up before that I know of). Then she segued into something about my sister calling her names, which apparently had to do with my sister appropriately calling her out for abusive behavior, like, I don't even know how long ago that was. That incident involved all of us, and mom was definitely being a butt. Which my mother escalated even further after that because omg how dare she call her abusive, no the behavior was abusive, that's calling me abusive, blah blah blah etc. in person, over email. I don't even remember how long that went on.
Anyway, apparently my dad's choices were have an unwinnable argument with a crazy person (as per usual), or indicate his disinterest in continuing the conversation. Now, in a normal situation you could just say something. As we have consistently reproduced the result that that does not work with my mother, he turned on the radio and literally shut himself off, she got huffy about him apparently not wanting to talk to her anymore (see, it works!) and huffed off.
She was still huffing hours later when I had to talk to her. She's still irritated. Everybody else is awful except her, and she will apparently go down to the absolute lowest levels to make herself feel better about herself while abusing someone else. I have no idea what made shitting on my sister and bad things that have happened in her life anything at all related to Trump, nor am I sure why that was something that made my mom feel all smug and smart and superior. I'm just kind of appalled at where she's willing to go and the damage she's willing to do and just keep blaming everybody else.
Speaking of things that might fall on that personality disorder spectrum.
* sigh *
Thanks.
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