It's origins in the play notwithstanding, the term 'gaslighting' doesn't just apply to men manipulating women.
It's origins in the play notwithstanding, the term 'gaslighting' doesn't just apply to men manipulating women. It's a form of abuse and control, and it is not uncommon.
Nevertheless, I understand the strength of the specific context she is using, here. We're taught not to believe in ourselves, not to believe ourselves. The illustration with the caption: _Women are taught to question our realities when we are young. _ is exactly what happens growing up. And keeps happening as adults. I will say that it happens to a lot of children, especially if whatever they see or say makes adults around them uncomfortable. It happens with every kind of abuse, not just the dysfunction around sex and gender roles.
I couldn't tell, and still can't, if I found this movie to be a hopeful display of mid-20th century "allyship," or a depressing example of male savior syndrome. I can tell; it's male savior syndrome - or worse. The woman exists only as the men around her tell her she exists. That doesn't have to be the case for there to be gaslighting, though.
Ultimately, her point that we have to believe our experience of reality, and not let other people tell us what we should believe is reality, especially when they are trying to tell us their version is real and ours is not, is deeply, critically important.
Believe yourself.
https://www.npr.org/2017/11/25/565729334/gaslighting-how-a-flicker-of-self-doubt-warps-our-response-to-sexual-harassment
https://www.npr.org/2017/11/25/565729334/gaslighting-how-a-flicker-of-self-doubt-warps-our-response-to-sexual-harassment
Nevertheless, I understand the strength of the specific context she is using, here. We're taught not to believe in ourselves, not to believe ourselves. The illustration with the caption: _Women are taught to question our realities when we are young. _ is exactly what happens growing up. And keeps happening as adults. I will say that it happens to a lot of children, especially if whatever they see or say makes adults around them uncomfortable. It happens with every kind of abuse, not just the dysfunction around sex and gender roles.
I couldn't tell, and still can't, if I found this movie to be a hopeful display of mid-20th century "allyship," or a depressing example of male savior syndrome. I can tell; it's male savior syndrome - or worse. The woman exists only as the men around her tell her she exists. That doesn't have to be the case for there to be gaslighting, though.
Ultimately, her point that we have to believe our experience of reality, and not let other people tell us what we should believe is reality, especially when they are trying to tell us their version is real and ours is not, is deeply, critically important.
Believe yourself.
https://www.npr.org/2017/11/25/565729334/gaslighting-how-a-flicker-of-self-doubt-warps-our-response-to-sexual-harassment
https://www.npr.org/2017/11/25/565729334/gaslighting-how-a-flicker-of-self-doubt-warps-our-response-to-sexual-harassment
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