[Hi locked circle]

[Hi locked circle]
Well, it took 3 days for mom to get offensively controlling and defensive.

Help me with this, help me with that, let me vent to you in person, on the phone, and via text, but don't respond to my expressions of concern or discussions of things to remember because you don't have to tell me what I could do, I know what I could do, I have experience.

Ok, fine, this is me walking away because you are having control issues. Jesus Christmas, what don't I know about your growing up that makes you so damn defensive about people telling you what to do? Hardly anyone is ever telling you what to do when you get like this. (Better than half the time, they're not even suggesting anything. They're just breathing.)

Eru, she and my sister are like twins with this. It still makes my sister unpleasant, but at least I know she had two abusive husbands that, shall we say, enhanced her paranoid tendencies (seriously, she imagined all sorts of weird threatening nonsense growing up - it didn't need to be augmented by actual threats). I have No idea what it is with my mom. Help me, Fuck off is not a brilliant relationship strategy.

I know she manifests worse/more when she's very tired, very stressed, or both, but she's very good at making sure you know you did something and you're the problem. As if. I did tell her I'd rather she just said shut up or something, which managed to end it before she really got going. It's hardly high level diplomacy, although it does mean I'm standing up for myself occasionally.