My family and I interacting are like a Myers-Briggs case study.
My family and I interacting are like a Myers-Briggs case study. My sister is taking my niece back to college in two weeks. Two, II, 2 weeks. Part of this little adventure is supposed to involve a trip to Vermont on the way to school in Massachusetts. It is still not planned. There are no reservations for lodgings.
Now, originally my sister had tried to make this a family trip with two cars, five people, and my niece's stuff, thus facilitating only she and my niece proceeding onwards to MA before turning around and returning to Ann Arbor. However, both of my parents are having outpatient surgeries the end of this month, so they both said it was too much. Theoretically, this trip would still involve me.
Yet emails and texts go unreplied to and phone calls are neither answered nor returned. No one tells us if my sister and niece have specific activities occurring other than work, but this seems irrelevant to trying to get a response. I mean, obviously I don't expect them to drop everything to respond, or to interrupt work, but at least communicate when there is a time to communicate.
I don't care if there's a rigid minute by minute plan, but the list of maybes is enough for two weeks of activities and there will be maybe 5 days. There are a lot of tourists and people going back to school in all these places. Some of them need tickets/reservations. Seeing what's what when you get somewhere is one thing. Having no place to stay and being unable to do what you wanted because planning ahead is just not your idiom is something else. In addition, my sister and niece are not renowned for their morning awakening and alacrity. I don't do well with trips that amount to sitting in your hotel half the day.
You will now all be unsurprised that I am an INTJ. 20 possible itineraries, let me show you them. Hotels, motels, B&Bs, Inns, and AirBnB. Checked 'em all. Can take you via the I-90 and I-87 through NY, or the 401 through Ontario and Quebec (hi, Montreal). Best central place to park our butts based on expressed interests of concerned parties - Burlington. Central to and less than an hour from practically everything. Did I mention I can tell you where to split your drive just a little over half-way if you go through NY? Of course, that's because I've been through there, but there are 2 places with lunch cafes and fresh, hot cider donuts, with or without cinnamon sugar, and apple cider.
Of course, if money were no object, it wouldn't matter if we had to stay at a $400/nt Inn. Hint: money is an object.
I don't know my sister's Myers-Briggs, I should ask, but I promise you she is NOT an INTJ. Nor are my mother or my niece. My dad probably isn't that exactly, but whatever he is, it's a lot closer to me than the other ones.
Now, originally my sister had tried to make this a family trip with two cars, five people, and my niece's stuff, thus facilitating only she and my niece proceeding onwards to MA before turning around and returning to Ann Arbor. However, both of my parents are having outpatient surgeries the end of this month, so they both said it was too much. Theoretically, this trip would still involve me.
Yet emails and texts go unreplied to and phone calls are neither answered nor returned. No one tells us if my sister and niece have specific activities occurring other than work, but this seems irrelevant to trying to get a response. I mean, obviously I don't expect them to drop everything to respond, or to interrupt work, but at least communicate when there is a time to communicate.
I don't care if there's a rigid minute by minute plan, but the list of maybes is enough for two weeks of activities and there will be maybe 5 days. There are a lot of tourists and people going back to school in all these places. Some of them need tickets/reservations. Seeing what's what when you get somewhere is one thing. Having no place to stay and being unable to do what you wanted because planning ahead is just not your idiom is something else. In addition, my sister and niece are not renowned for their morning awakening and alacrity. I don't do well with trips that amount to sitting in your hotel half the day.
You will now all be unsurprised that I am an INTJ. 20 possible itineraries, let me show you them. Hotels, motels, B&Bs, Inns, and AirBnB. Checked 'em all. Can take you via the I-90 and I-87 through NY, or the 401 through Ontario and Quebec (hi, Montreal). Best central place to park our butts based on expressed interests of concerned parties - Burlington. Central to and less than an hour from practically everything. Did I mention I can tell you where to split your drive just a little over half-way if you go through NY? Of course, that's because I've been through there, but there are 2 places with lunch cafes and fresh, hot cider donuts, with or without cinnamon sugar, and apple cider.
Of course, if money were no object, it wouldn't matter if we had to stay at a $400/nt Inn. Hint: money is an object.
I don't know my sister's Myers-Briggs, I should ask, but I promise you she is NOT an INTJ. Nor are my mother or my niece. My dad probably isn't that exactly, but whatever he is, it's a lot closer to me than the other ones.
I remember going to Vermont in September, and having to stay in a broken motel in Burlington. Not awesome.
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ReplyDeleteI really prefer to be the one in charge of plans on Capital V Vacations (as opposed to things like Socials which I consider more Visiting Friends) because while I'm not one to micromanage everyones day or plan specific times for stuff I really need to know that all the information is available to do the things what need doing.
ReplyDeleteLike if we really want to do Thing A and we're all loosey goosey and no one does any research and we save it to the last day and oops Thing A is closed? Irritates the fuck out of me. I mean, y'all saw my spreadsheet, ha.
(also why I hate group projects. I'm not a perfectionist, I just want to make sure shit actually gets done, fuck)