You know, English fails spectacularly to communicate sufficiently shaded meanings in all sorts of interpersonal...

You know, English fails spectacularly to communicate sufficiently shaded meanings in all sorts of interpersonal relationships. Like, people often need things, but that is not being needy, so called. Then there are the people who are clearly not simply in need, but boy, do they cross over into that needy thing being a potentially appropriate label.

The thing is, I hate that label, because so many people use it not because someone they interact with is in genuine need, but because they only want the happy fun time double plus good good parts of a relationship. Therefore, if you are needy, you are abusing and overtaxing the bounds of the interaction and they are justified in pretty much any behavior to get away from your soul-sucking existence to save themselves. Which is almost always excrement.

You guys as a group are generally much more precise with meaning than the vast majority of humanity, many of you in multiple languages. The average use, though, is a way to neg someone, or control someone, etc. as noted above.

I have enough to deal with in sorting out the screwiness that is my family and my life. I certainly do not have the energy to deal with "friends" who seem to think they can demand my attention where and how they want it. 

I'm just venting in the immediate moment, but I may torture a few of you with the specific email I got and the issues around whether or not or how I reply to it. There are reasons why I think I should probably send some kind of reply, but not right now. If I replied right now, I might be pretty mean and angry. Which is to say, very bluntly honest, and I don't think that's probably the best way to go.

But I am pissed off. So very, very, very angry.