So, the latest is that there is bone and nerve damage in my dad's spine, probably related to the main issues and...
So, the latest is that there is bone and nerve damage in my dad's spine, probably related to the main issues and their treatment, and options may be limited to surgery.
I don't know in detail, because my dad started talking to me briefly while I was going in and my parents were going out. That, and my mother interrupted him when she came in so he couldn't really say what he was going to say, and then when he stepped out her comments were things like, "It's interesting how things get interpreted." and comments about imagination, and that's not what was said, etc. And then there was the bit where he said he could always get a second opinion and my mom said you already got one and you guys can probably write these posts by now, right?
It's entirely possible that my dad's presentation wasn't precise. It might even have been inaccurate. It has been known to happen. However, he's the sick person, so he gets to say whatever he wants however he wants about his illness. And it's extremely likely that I would have gotten my mother's version at some other time, and would have then formed my own opinions. 'Cuz I'm smart like that.
P.S. If he wants to get third, fourth, and fifth opinions, and he has the money to spend on it, what's the difference? If that's what he needs/wants to do, go for it. I mean, do you just go to one or two car dealers and buy a car? I don't. I read, I ask questions, I test drive several things. Even when I know exactly what car I want, I still go to more than one dealer before I buy one. If I didn't, I'd have totally gotten screwed.
Why would you put less thought and effort into a decision about surgery? Even if you are a person who makes snap decisions, if you are not deciding for yourself, why would you invalidate someone else's decision process over something so significant?
#fsckcancer
I don't know in detail, because my dad started talking to me briefly while I was going in and my parents were going out. That, and my mother interrupted him when she came in so he couldn't really say what he was going to say, and then when he stepped out her comments were things like, "It's interesting how things get interpreted." and comments about imagination, and that's not what was said, etc. And then there was the bit where he said he could always get a second opinion and my mom said you already got one and you guys can probably write these posts by now, right?
It's entirely possible that my dad's presentation wasn't precise. It might even have been inaccurate. It has been known to happen. However, he's the sick person, so he gets to say whatever he wants however he wants about his illness. And it's extremely likely that I would have gotten my mother's version at some other time, and would have then formed my own opinions. 'Cuz I'm smart like that.
P.S. If he wants to get third, fourth, and fifth opinions, and he has the money to spend on it, what's the difference? If that's what he needs/wants to do, go for it. I mean, do you just go to one or two car dealers and buy a car? I don't. I read, I ask questions, I test drive several things. Even when I know exactly what car I want, I still go to more than one dealer before I buy one. If I didn't, I'd have totally gotten screwed.
Why would you put less thought and effort into a decision about surgery? Even if you are a person who makes snap decisions, if you are not deciding for yourself, why would you invalidate someone else's decision process over something so significant?
#fsckcancer
Agreed on all fronts.
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