Apparently you cure my mother of illness by suggesting in word, thought, or deed that you threaten her total control.
Apparently you cure my mother of illness by suggesting in word, thought, or deed that you threaten her total control. I know she's really sick. I know we all get a little weird when we're that sick. But, seriously?
I am a horrible human being for pointing out that it isn't really helpful for the person who is ill to be washing the dishes and doing the laundry if they are coughing all over the meanwhile. Yes, I am aware that when you are the only person who can take care of yourself, you do that. But there are other people here, and it is important to try to help not share the illness.
Also, it's ok for you to let other people do things for 12 whole contiguous hours. She's upset that I went grocery shopping and she didn't know about it (because she couldn't tell me how, when, where, and what.) We've had to pressure her into taking ibuprofen regularly to help with her 102+ fever (Do Not call it motrin or advil, for the love of god).
She is arguing about how long the virus is infectious on surfaces. Depending on the study, anywhere from minutes to days, and it depends on the surface, wet or dry, temperature etc. She insists that it goes away in a few hours, at most, so she can go anywhere, touch anything, and it's not necessary to be concerned. Also, she is arguing about whether she is infectious. Given an accepted window of about 1 day before symptoms to 5-7 days post symptoms, she's been infectious since last Wed or Thurs, and will continue to be so at least until Friday.
I am seriously thinking about walking around wearing a mask inside the house. I am not discontinuing my systematic lysol wiping and handwashing, along with some high temperature dishwashing. I almost got away with doing the laundry, but she's made it very clear that that's not going to happen. Except I am still going to try to keep removing and replacing the cloth dishtowels.
Did I mention I just found out she told my sister it was ok to come and stay here for Christmas?
I am a horrible human being for pointing out that it isn't really helpful for the person who is ill to be washing the dishes and doing the laundry if they are coughing all over the meanwhile. Yes, I am aware that when you are the only person who can take care of yourself, you do that. But there are other people here, and it is important to try to help not share the illness.
Also, it's ok for you to let other people do things for 12 whole contiguous hours. She's upset that I went grocery shopping and she didn't know about it (because she couldn't tell me how, when, where, and what.) We've had to pressure her into taking ibuprofen regularly to help with her 102+ fever (Do Not call it motrin or advil, for the love of god).
She is arguing about how long the virus is infectious on surfaces. Depending on the study, anywhere from minutes to days, and it depends on the surface, wet or dry, temperature etc. She insists that it goes away in a few hours, at most, so she can go anywhere, touch anything, and it's not necessary to be concerned. Also, she is arguing about whether she is infectious. Given an accepted window of about 1 day before symptoms to 5-7 days post symptoms, she's been infectious since last Wed or Thurs, and will continue to be so at least until Friday.
I am seriously thinking about walking around wearing a mask inside the house. I am not discontinuing my systematic lysol wiping and handwashing, along with some high temperature dishwashing. I almost got away with doing the laundry, but she's made it very clear that that's not going to happen. Except I am still going to try to keep removing and replacing the cloth dishtowels.
Did I mention I just found out she told my sister it was ok to come and stay here for Christmas?
From the sound of things, your mother is one of the few people IN THE WORLD whose martyr complex is worse than mine.
ReplyDelete(...yes, really. I am the worst person I have ever met at accepting freely offered help, and even worse at asking for it, and am probably more likely to do dishes or other active tasks if I really shouldn't be doing it. But I'm aware of and working on it, which I feel counts for something.)